How to enter the "flow": a magic scheme that will suit everyone. Well-defined goals

Love is the basis of the universe. Love is what our world consists of, ourselves. Love \u003d life.
Love without conditions \u003d life.

Everything seems to be simple. Love without conditions \u003d just love. Love life, love yourself, love the world, people around, love what you do and what you don’t do. Just love and enjoy it. However, I often come across the opinion that loving unconditionally is very difficult. And that this requires some incredible effort to educate oneself, and some self-sacrifice and even heroism.

That is why I propose to talk a little about what love is. And we are not talking about relationships, but directly about love itself. Love just like that. Without conditions and colors. Love for everything and everyone. Without borders and restrictions. Unconditional love.

And first, let's figure out what unconditional love is. And is there any other love, not unconditional?

Conditional love

Love with conditions is familiar to many of us from early childhood: “If you behave well, I like you, I love you”, “If you are an obedient girl, I love you”, “If you are an excellent student, I love you”, “If you don’t deceive me, I love you”, “If you bring home a lot of money, I love you,” “If you don’t cheat on me, I love you,” etc., etc. This list can be continued indefinitely.

But the main thing - conditional love or conditional love - is when we set conditions, when we love for something.

This process can hardly be truly called love, since it is more reminiscent of animal training. I did it right - I got a piece of sugar (love), I did it wrong - I got irritation, discontent, resentment.

We very often treat others this way and do the same to ourselves.

Can you accept a person for who they are?

Do you want to be accepted for who you really are?

Can you accept yourself for who you are?

Do you know who you really are?

Is it fair at all to talk about "who is", maybe it is fairer to talk about how I see a person? How do I perceive?

How do I perceive and see myself?

Then the question sounds like this:

Can you accept the person as you see / perceive?
Can you accept yourself as you see / perceive?

And now I will continue the thought ...

Love yourself and others

Many conditions have been recorded in us since childhood and are recorded at a very deep subconscious level. And we can only allow ourselves to love ourselves and others to love ourselves if these conditions are met. The same is true of love for others. These conditions can be discovered from those situations, from those problems that we encounter in life. By removing these conditions, we also remove the problems associated with them.

The list of conditions is endless. And work and dismantle the rubble, consisting of what prevents us from loving, too, you can endlessly.

But! After all, you remember that what grows in us is what we feed with our attention.

That is why I propose that we finally begin to nourish with our attention not what prevents us from loving, but love itself.

Love is love

From the experience of conducting trainings, I can tell right away about unconditional love - 90% of people confuse love with other feelings. And that is why many people have a very strange reaction to the proposal to just love. From "what for I need this" to "it hurts to love, so - well, you nafig with such ideas." However, you still want to love, because each of us one way or another - consciously or subconsciously - feels how incredible, magical and powerful force of life is hidden in love.

So, in order not to be confused, I propose to start using a very simple and magic formula.

The whole secret is ... that LOVE is LOVE!

I.e! Love is not pity, not guilt, not anger, not self-sacrifice, not heroism, not pain. And also not custody and not care. The list of what love is not can be continued. This is a very helpful list.

And the whole secret in its expanded form sounds like this.

Love is love.

Pity is pity.

Guilt is guilt.

Pain is pain.

Sacrifice is sacrifice.

Caring is caring.

Try to say these words out loud: "Love is love." Feel. It's simple. Just like life itself.

If, of course, not to be confused. Moreover, love heals. Heals guilt, pity, pain, anger, heals the body and, in general, can do a lot. If, of course, this is unconditional love.

A lot can be done with these magic phrases. Just remind yourself in time: love is love and much in your life will become easier, simpler, more pleasant, more magical.

Feel.

One more aspect.

Love is a feeling. Therefore, it is important not to talk about love, but to feel it.
Therefore, developing feelings, sensations, allowing ourselves to feel, we thereby open more and more channels of perception - including for love, for unconditional love.

And since feeling love once will be much better than talking about it a hundred times, I offer you a little practical experience.

Take a piece of paper. Write "Unconditional Love" on it. Now feel - where is the source of unconditional love hidden in your home? Feel where you would like to put this piece of paper.
Perhaps for someone it will be an image, for someone it will be a sensation, but someone will just want to put the leaf this way and not otherwise. Do it.

Now get up, sit down, or even lie on this piece of paper. And - open up to feelings and sensations.

Most people begin to feel something unusual within a few seconds. It can be warmth or goosebumps, it can be a feeling of cleansing, washing out excess, expanding, it can be a pleasant coolness and even a feeling of ozone (like fresh air after a thunderstorm). There may be a wiggle or an enveloping comfort.

It doesn't matter how you experience unconditional love. It is important that in this way it becomes material for you and begins to work for you and for you.

And one more little secret. Unconditional love is intelligent energy and it is also the basis of the universe. Therefore, you can ask her to do something for you. For example - to treat. Or - wash away old grievances and pain. Or help in the implementation of something important to you. Ask - and trust the process. Unconditional love knows how to help you. Your task is only to trust ... And the more you trust, the faster and easier what you asked for will turn out.

Unconditional love

Of course, this is not all that can be said about unconditional love. Therefore, the continuation of the topic - follows.

And at the end of this article I invite you to my new training "Unconditional love or how to become a favorite of Life, the Universe and the Universe." This training is magical, like love itself, and it is impossible to retell in words what is actually happening there. But you can experience, feel and reveal in yourself and the world around you. Come! The next training will take place on Saturday, September 24, from 12.00 to 20.00.

Good luck and love!
Love, Junia

Stream is a mental state in which a person is fully focused and involved in the process of his activities. The author of the “flow” concept, Mihai Csikszentmihalyi, in his new book talks about how to achieve this state, thanks to which you can get more pleasure from the activity and show better results.

We have selected for you information about the main ingredients for immersion in the state of flow.

Well-defined goals

Understanding what you want to achieve is the first critical condition for achieving flow state. By only thinking about a specific goal, you are more likely to achieve it. At the same time, keep in mind that the ability to adjust your goals to the moment - for example, the fact that your level of ability or the difficulty of the task may be lower or higher than expected - allows you to more fully use your potential in a particular situation. ...

Matching the complexity of the task and the possibilities

A person's feeling that the seriousness of the task before him corresponds to his capabilities is certainly the most important component of the flow.

In order to experience the state of the flow, a person must perform a task that is feasible for him, the implementation of which, however, requires him to apply certain efforts.

As you successfully achieve your goals and deal with difficulties, you develop self-efficacy, that is, faith in your ability to take actions that will enable you to achieve your goals. As your self-efficacy grows, you take risks more boldly and are not afraid of failure, setting ever more serious goals for yourself. By doing this, you will not only have a better chance of experiencing the flow state, but you will also get more inner satisfaction from running.

Clear feedback

In his activities, a person should rely not only on his internal markers to get feedback. He must also closely monitor important elements in his environment: the behavior of opponents, members of his team, coaches and even the public when it comes to competition on a treadmill. Any factor - from distance traveled to weather - can affect your tactics.

With this information, you can change your behavior. And if you take these measures, then your body is likely to respond positively, which increases your chance of falling into a flow state.

Feeling in control of the situation

In the flow state, any restrictions are removed. Your attention is focused only on what you are able to control, namely yourself and your actions. All feedback is positive for you, and you feel a surge of energy, as if you are in complete control of your destiny.

Keep in mind, however, that people sometimes tend to exaggerate this sense of control. In reality, believing that you have too much control over a situation can lead to overconfidence and bravado, personality traits that will instantly throw you out of the flow. You need to be confident but humble.

Loss of "sense of self"

This sounds paradoxical: you lose awareness of your own “I” just at the moment when you most fully control your actions and destiny. But it is in the flow state that this can happen. When all your attention is focused on solving a specific problem, you have no mental energy left to be tormented by doubts or anxiety about how other people perceive you. Your ego magically fades away.

Concentrated attention

In our modern world, it is not so easy to keep focused attention. People constantly think about home at work and at home about work. It seems that in some incomprehensible way they can not concentrate on the present moment.

In a state of flow, attention reaches its peak. All of a sudden, your mind stops wandering in a million directions, and instead is completely involved in the task at hand.

When you actively incorporate your thoughts and events into your consciousness, you show attention. Attention is what allows you to dodge a kid on the road, step over a root on your jogging trail in the forest, or react to a dash by your opponent before the finish of a race. Focusing is an active process that can be improved with some techniques and techniques, such as mindfulness, yoga and meditation.

Distorted perception of time

In a state of flow - when you are completely immersed in a pleasant activity for you - your sense of time is distorted. The reasons for such a distorted perception of time can lie in the field of neurology (the activity of the nervous system) and in the field of psychology (human mental activity). Our sense of time is regulated by the prefrontal cortex. With a decrease in the activity of this department, the ability to correctly assess the past tense also decreases.

The state of deep concentration that you experience during the flow allows you to forget about looking at your watch every few minutes, and allows you to completely immerse yourself in the work you are doing. Negative thoughts that can divert your attention (such as "How much more do I have to do this?") Are not possible in the flow state.

Man becomes action

When your attention is fully focused on the task at hand at the moment of the flow state, you feel inseparable from your actions. When this special phenomenon arises, everything seems to happen automatically, since there is no barrier between your thoughts and your actions.

Absolute intrinsic motivation

When you enjoy an activity, you tend to do it over and over again. When you do this, you get better at your job. When you have high skills, you can tackle more challenging problems. When you raise the bar on your goals, you are more likely to achieve a state of flow. When you are experiencing a flow, you want a repetition of this sensation. When you love your job more and more, then more and more strive to do it. Etc.

This beautiful cycle of flow starts and ends in the same place - love for the work you do for its own sake. Without absolute inner love for one's work, the state of flow is simply inaccessible.

The flow is a magical place where you are completely absorbed in what you do, where time passes so quickly that it seems as if it does not exist at all... Of course, such a model of behavior will not suit everyone, but some will find it quite acceptable! Reflections of Chris Bailey (Chris Bailey) about how to get to this place without radical changes in your own life.

I recently finished reading the book "Flow" ★ by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi (Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi); it is a rather boring and dry book, but it contains some ingenious things. These include, for example, the diagram published in the book. But I decided to improve it a little.

Let's add some color, tweak the lines, make it look nicer ...

Well, much better.

If you do not have the slightest idea of \u200b\u200bwhat this circuit is, no big deal. Here's what it shows in a nutshell:

• Any activity you do can find its place in this scheme (depending on how difficult it is (for you) and how many of your skills it uses).
• The ideal place for him, you guessed it, is in the "stream". It matches the difficulty of your task perfectly with your skills. Especially if you have the motivation to do something. As Mihai Csikszentmihalyi says, in this stream you will be very happy. For example, writing "Csikszentmihalyi" is a rather difficult task, but it does not require a lot of skill, which brings this activity to the "Anxiety" corner.

"1" is your starting position. Here you play tennis for the first time. Learn to serve the ball (which is tricky, but doable the first time) and try to reach the other side of the court from where you are (or something like that - I confess I don't know much about tennis). In this segment, you are in a streaming state, because your task is equal to your skills and you are having fun.

You are moving towards "2"... You improve your skills to the point where it gets boring just tossing the ball over the net. The challenge of the game is now below your skill level and you are no longer in the stream.

You go to "3"... And set yourself a task that makes you tense - for example, you decided to play tennis with a friend, an athlete, and he "made" you. Here the challenge is higher - that is, harder than your skill level, and you no longer experience the sensation of flow.

Depending on where you are, there are two ways to get back to the streaming channel.

If you are bored ( "2"), you will need to find a more difficult task, for example, find a partner to play with with skills equal to yours.

If you are concerned ( "3"), you will need to improve your tennis skills to get back to the flow (you can also reduce the difficulty of the problem, but this is not so easy to do in practice).

Mihai says it is

“Explains how the flowing state leads to growth and discovery. A person cannot like doing the same thing, staying on the same level for a long time. We either get bored or we get upset; then the desire to enjoy something pushes us to improve skills or discover new opportunities to use existing ones. "

Then you have to either improve your skills or change the tasks to accommodate them in order to experience the streaming state more often.

2010-10-12 Jesus Christ through the News of Light

"On the flow of unconditional love in the Heart"

Greetings, dear ones. I AM Jesus Christ. I embrace you in my love and support. Truly, the spiritual universe contains oceans of Love, Light, which are ready to pour out on you as a golden rain of Abundance, Joy and Happiness. And it depends only on you, your state of consciousness, how much of this you can accept. When you connect with yourself, with your I AM Presence, then the spiritual universe has the opportunity through you to give this Light and Love to this world, respectively, and you receive as much as you need, even more.

The center of love coming into this world is your Heart, which for various reasons can be closed. Its barriers are like stones, boulders in the riverbed, because of which the stream is either completely blocked or flows in a very thin stream.

Truly these boulders blocking the flow are distortions in your 4 lower bodies. The largest lumps are located in your identity body. The decision to separate from the Source is the most important, keystone, almost completely blocking the flow of Love and Light into your life. As a result of this decision, in the body of identity - in the mental, various negative, judgmental thoughts breed, and as a result, feelings of resentment, anger, guilt settle in the emotional body, which at their vibration level block the flow of love. On the physical level, a lack of love can manifest itself in diseases of the heart, cardiovascular system.

Truly, there is no stronger means to freeing your Heart than to remove the bulk of your identity body. This happens when you, at a deep, subconscious level with your Consciousness, you understand the real meaninglessness of holding on to the identity of someone who is separated from the Source, who shuts himself off from an abundant, endless source of nutrition. Would you, living in the desert, shut off the flow of a single river with your own hands? Of course not, but the world of duality, the prince of this world, managed to mislead your Conscious You with all sorts of illusions. And each illusion is responsible for a specific stone that blocks your flow of God's unconditional love. Therefore, liberation from the illusions of the world of duality is one of the main tasks for achieving your Happiness, which is directly related to those volumes of Love, Light that you can conduct into this World through your Heart.

Of course, unresolved stories from your past, all sorts of trauma, ancestral weaves, identification with any of your relatives - all these are also those distortions of your body of identity that block the flow of Abundance. Therefore, letting go of the past, restoring your birth streams according to Mother and Father is necessary to cleanse your body of identity and bring it into alignment with your true identity, to restore your spiritual birth streams according to your Spiritual Mother and Father.

One of the main criteria for determining the power of the flow of the unconditional river, that part of the River of Life that flows through you is how much you love and accept yourself, love that inner child who always, no matter how old you are, always lives inside you and expects your unconditional love and support. Truly, it represents your emotional body, which automatically reflects all the distortions of your mental body, which are the result of distortions of the identity body, your belief system.

Truly, there is nothing more important in this world than the unconditional love of the Creator freely, easily and naturally flowing through you into this world. And indeed, all your deeds done in this state, in this are the streams of this Love of the Creator - they are eternal and will remain so forever, they are quantum, beyond the illusions of space, time and death.

All deeds, "creations" from the ego, from the illusions of time and space - they are dead and finite and all are subject to destruction sooner or later. So, any thing in the material world eventually destroys, so people have to spend a lot of their vital energy to maintain them - on vehicles, infrastructure, infrastructure, supporting infrastructure. Everything material is constantly washed by the light of the Creator and seeks to come in line with his Intention, therefore, no matter how much humanity builds Babylonian towers in the world of duality, no matter how much consciousness clings to the carnal state, this is temporary and each soul, in the end, will face the choice of death and life: to cling to dualistic illusions at all costs, or to accept the Final Decision of Life - to take responsibility for yourself, your connection with the Creator and your self-transcendence, for constantly becoming MORE in the River of Life. You can track how much time you are now spending on Dead things in matter, i.e. you bring yourself closer to death, or to Love, Light, which makes you more Alive.

Each person with an open Heart is a fire of light that kindles and throws the coals of Love into the fading fires of the people around. Indeed, the more Lights around, the easier and faster other people can awaken and become Lights themselves and spread Light and Unconditional Love throughout the Earth in order to bring the Kingdom of God - Heaven to Earth.

There is no common thing more important for Happiness,

Than in the Heart there is a stream of Your unconditional love,

Bring the light of the clear Gift in him,

In almost all modern languages, there is only one word to describe a feeling like love.But the manifestation of this feeling is diverse, depending on the object to which we experience it: mother, child, loved one of the opposite sex, friend or girlfriend, homeland, beloved animal, and stands separately love for God.

In Greek, four different words were used for this concept: "eros", "storge", "filia" and "agape" ... Love - this is the emotion that gives us strength and inspiration, fills us with energy and makes us act and pushes us to reckless actions. No wonder people have been looking for Love at all times. Mutual Love inspires, makes it possible to move mountains, reach huge peaks.

"Eros" - sensual love, not subject to human will, generated by the fermentation of hormones in the human body. She finds outward expression in a kind of behavior, which we call - in love, love attraction or love passion. Love directed towards physical possession of an object.

"Storge" - can be translated into Russian as "tenderness", family love, love of parents for children and children for parents. This relationship affects our entire life, it is our strongest karmic connection in this life.

Love " Filia " in Russian it can be called "respect". This is love-friendship. Love for a group of people or objects, for example, for your collection.

Word "Agape" translated as "a feast of love". Agape expresses active, gifting love, focused on the good of the neighbor, without the slightest shadow of self-interest or attachment to any quality of the beloved. If a person is ruled by Agape's love, he experiences something akin to delight. This is a feeling that fills him to the last cell, turning to dust any attempt at negative manifestation, although it does not reject other types of it. This is love for God.

Our relationship with the world is built on an energetic level in the areas of certain chakras. Moreover, in different relationships, different chakras are involved. Contacting a person, we give our energy and receive it from him. How much are we giving? How much do we get? How can I check this? Are your connections built correctly and how do they affect your relationship? After all, a person often says that he invests so much energy in someone, but in return he receives practically nothing and does not think about whether he invests there and whether another person needs it?

At the training you can track built relationships... You yourself will understand how mutual the feelings of your loved one are, or are these just words about love, and he wants something different from you. Why does a beloved man sometimes go to the side, what he lacks. Are your friends, colleagues and relatives honest and are there any "vampires" among them? Why, after talking with your beloved friend, you feel as if the coal carriage was unloaded.

Learn to regulate energy exchange with your environment. You will try to restore the connections that were broken for some reason that you would like to restore or re-establish with someone.

You will learn how you can lay a positive program for your counterpart to improve relations and better perception of you.

The practical work carried out at the training will help you to use these techniques in your life in the future.

At the training:

• You will feel how your chakras work on the energies of a specific state of love;
• You will learn to determine what feelings your immediate environment has for you;
• What quality energy comes from them;
• You will see how the chakra energy exchange is built with your: loved ones, children, relatives and bosses, for whom you are a donor, and who is for you, who pumps out your energy, not wanting to give anything in return;
• Correct the energy exchange where it needs to be strengthened, if we want to restore fading connections, and somewhere, on the contrary, weaken, so as not to de-energize yourself in vain, if a person does not want to live with you on a parity energy basis;
• Remove vampire ties that you consider to be unconditional kinship.

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