Useful tips of the father. Practical advice on the daily life of a Christian. Prophecy about the fate of Russia

Archimandrite Andrei Konosńan - Greek priest Rod from Germany. Travels a lot around the world, preaching in different countries, leads the transfer to the Greek radio.

The book contains 14 conversations in a direct speech format. Conversations are not combined by some general themeBut read in one breath.

For how many days you can find grace

Andrei Konozos tells the many stories that happened to him or parishioners. Once he was with pilgrimage in one orthodox monastery America. Local monks continually read Jesus prayer. He read her all day, at work, for food. Andrei himself also penetrated and began to read prayer. Constantly, all five days, which was in the monastery.

At the end, he covered such grace that he stopped noticing all worldly around. Andrei thought she finally found God.

It's time to return home. Andrei Konozos stood in line for a plane. And suddenly one of his companions disappeared somewhere: "Batyushka, I can not find a ticket!", "How so? What do you say so? What do you suggest to do now? " The whole grace of Jesus Prayer VMIG was changed with irritation: "Watch how many people are waiting for their turn! Where is your ticket? Where did you sing him? "

Fortunately, later the ticket was found and pilgrims flew off their flight. Sitting in the plane, Andrei Konosńz stroked himself: "Well, why did I annoy? God all arranged. Why did I lose grace? ".

So we should not deceit. Grace need to look for a lifetime.

Why God burns suffering

You can meet this point of view: God burns suffering in punishment for sins. Maybe you are right. Archimandrite Andrei honestly admits that he does not know the answer.

During terrible events in Hawaii, thousands of people died due to an earthquake, Archimandrite Andrei arrived on the island to support people. Many of their relatives died. They all appeal to Andrey with the question "For what? Why are we? " The priest replied that he did not know why the Lord made it. Because it can not at the moment, now, to realize the whole divine fishery.

He told about the boy who plays the ball. When the father was darkly selected the ball and called the Son home. The son began to cry and asked to bring him a toy. But the father is more visible that it is better for a son, even if the son does not understand this.

Once, Andrei says, perhaps we will understand why the Lord painted this or that. With time. Not now.

What will happen

Why worry and worry about tomorrow, if every day brings us to God every day? Why show perseverance if everything is as it will be located the Lord?

Once, in the evening, Andrei Konanos wanted to purchase one book. He went to the first store, but there was not there. Soon the stores will close, you need to hurry into the other, I thought. But in the second it was not. You need to run back to the third! But there were no books on sale.

Stop! What is me from the book right now? Will I read her at night? Not. Well, then I will continue to search for tomorrow.

So you need to approach all worldly matters. It turns out - good. No - it's not. On all the will of God.

But you always need to think your head. If the hurry is needed - you need to hurry.

Leave your neighbor alone

One monk carried obedience to what did not do anything. So far, other monks worked, he helped them that he did not interfere. While others passed people, he was silent. For such a "occupation" he spent several years.

And now the pilgrims go to this monk, they ask him to confess. Give advice. Why? He does nothing. And because just such a humility and no in humans. They stretch to him, because they want to get what is not in them.

And the other constantly points to all how to do it right as wrong. Imposes its point of view. But people do not need it, they have nothing to take from a person who is trying to subordinate those surrounding their will.

We cannot force people to live, as we want. Just as we cannot get a person sincerely love us.

Spirituality is not talking about God

Being a spiritual person means not to talk about God, but to say what the people comes to be interested in God.

One day, pilgrims, among which there were many children gathered to confess from one famous Afonovsky senior. This old man is very wise, he will tell you a lot of delete things! - spoke to adult children.

When the pilgrims met with the old man, he inquired first, for what football club they sick? Do you like his favorite team? Do they follow the matches?

Batyushka, - adults intervened, - Can I listen to something spiritual?

Sure! When was the last time you drove children to the stadium?

The children had cheated that they were lined up to confess to the old man.

So, with the help of laughter, he managed to raise interest in faith in children.

Marriage - Mirror of Character

Many marriages disintegrate. Why is this happening? There are many reasons. Maybe the husband gives his wife money and believes that nothing else should. Maybe the wife does not receive attention from her husband and looking for him on the side. Anyway, marriages disintegrate due to the voids between the spouses, which they fill out not by what it is necessary.

One woman came to confession to Archimandrite Andrei and said:

I had to quarrel with my husband who does not believe in God, but I still came to the temple! I am with you, father, very good, you always listen, not what my husband!

The woman awaited praise from the priest, but instead he read it:

What are you doing? Well, faster run home, to the spouse. It is impossible to fill the emptiness in the relationship of hikes into the temple.

At first the spouse, then God. If the Lord now heard this woman and could answer her, really he approved her behavior? Would he say she, what would one be returned to her husband and humbly asked him for forgiveness?

Another marriage feature is a mirror of character. The person with whom you live for many years, sees you what you are. If your spouse or spouse criticizes you for something, then this is the disadvantage that you would not see in yourself.

Why we are not saints

Archimandrite Andrei Konosenos very loves the elder Paisius Svyatogorz. For him, he is an example of the imitation.

The old man of Paisius always vinyl in everything. In all sins of other people only he is to blame. When they came to him and told that they were sinned, the elder repeated: "I am guilty, I didn't save it, I didn't see what I'm sinful!". He did it completely sincerely and repented in other people's sins sincerely.

Because saints don't see evil in people. They see only good in people.

- Help, father, I sleep all the time, I do nothing!

- Well, so well, while you sleep - do not sin.

God people do not reproach others, do not morally. Their answers are always humble and brief: "Do not worry, all is well", "God will forgive."

About home duties . Everyone in the family has their own duties. The husband contains a family, and the wife must be a keeper of the house.

- Should my husband help his wife in domestic affairs?

- I would formulate something differently: Can a husband help his wife in domestic affairs? Can. But to say "should" not. After all, what is the debt? This is a duty. And we have already said that everyone has their own duties in the family. The husband contains a family, and the wife must be a keeper of the house.

That is, home care is mostly lying on her shoulders. And make her husband constantly wash the floors, it is impossible to wash. I know that the husbands themselves are happy to do it if they see that his wife is difficult. But when they are forced - for them it is very sad, everything inside is opposed, because it is not their responsibility. Some women boast: "My husband erases, cooks, removes ...". It should be understood that when the wife begins to gradually conquer the authority and power in the family and the husband moves away to the second roles - this is the way to break a family. Must be the authority of her husband and father. It is very important. In the same way, as for her husband should be the authority of God. Therefore, in the performance of homework, you can ask your husband about help, but it is impossible to order. You can take help, but it is impossible to legalize it.

- On whom from the spouses is to a greater degree lies upbringing children?

- In the Orthodox tradition, the wife should be still a homemade man, to raise children. It is a great job - to conduct a house, the farm, and the woman usually only did it. According to poverty, when the husband was not able to feed the family, his wife had to work. But even if the wife has a salary higher than her husband, she should forget it. Traditionally, the whole way family life emphasized the authority of her husband, father. He sat down at the main place at the table and until she took a spoon, no one started lunch. And now the mammy carries a plate with a son, her daughter first, then he remembers about the dad. Little things, but they are destroying. They exalted children, children cease to obey their parents, the authority of adults is lost. The art of family life is the art of wisdom. Humble wisdom. If dad is resting - everyone should go on tiptoe. If my mother is difficult, dad must say: "Well, kids, we will help." It is necessary to see it, you need to notice each other, Love, respect, live care about each other. And when you see only myself, your fatigue, your desires, then you begin and regret only yourself.

- But what should I do if a woman still have to take the responsibilities of the chapter?

- Do not take! Sin, when a husband gives his wife power in the family, and exactly the same sin when she takes. You give you, and you do not take: "No, dear, you are the head of the family." Not to say this is necessary, but by life, to emphasize the primary role of a man.

- How not to take? The family will be a beggar. Maybe so be?

- Can. The trouble is that we are trying to live in comparison with others. And you must be content with what you have. Wife feeds the family, but the power is not necessary. Her husband is unemployed, can not earn, but it should still be planted in the first place, to maintain a good attitude, show that he is-chammed in the family. The power is not in who more money brings, but in the hierarchy before God.

- It happens that the head of the head does not emphasize his leadership position in the family, and her husband is still painfully experiencing it.

- Stresses unfortunately. It she thinks he does not emphasize. The internal state is very inertia. When a person comes from work, where he was a leader, to switch to family life is difficult. This happens when we begin to treat work as the main thing in life, but the work is - it's also obedience and proud to be proud. There is an intimidian obedience, and there is a social. And everyone needs to be responsible, but not to make a cult from him. Unfortunately, novices are bad. This is all about it.

About grinding. It should be understood that the close to the disgrace. And try not to file him.

- Why say: "cute swear - only chop "? then - this is not dangerous?

- Do not swear, and get married, that is, grumble. Could quarrel, but humble themselves before it grumble. They managed to extinguish the fire of irritability within themselves, quarrels when the conflict could arise. But when they swear - no longer chop. And from the light of each other coming around. When a person exhausted fire, it gives consolation and joy that he managed not to bring the case to conflict. Then they are trembling, of course.

On ordinary disagreements between the spouses, the elder said:

"The spouses must have the same confessor. So that two woods are perfect to each other, They need to be overwhelmedone Rubankov ". And another time he said: "Spouses Must have a confessor, because without a referee there is no contest. "Of Books of the priest Dionysius Tatsis "Archondarik in the open sky", M., 1998.

- What if your husband or wife starts to make fun of the spouse's weakness, talking prick, unpleasant things?

- Holy Fathers say that nobody should not tell about the internal family problems. Not something to mock each other, but even it is not necessary to share with anyone. If you open the secrets of family life in front of other people, you give over your family life. And people are not all decent. In no case should not praise, nor to rejoice, nor sadness to share. This is an internal, very mysterious life, it must be preserved. A person can in the family and weakness to show, but it showed it in her family, he hoped that his relatives would understand. He may, in another situation, would not show it, and here it was not restrained, I showed my little disgrace, but not because he was playing on loved ones, and because he believes. The husband of his wife opens his soul, because he trusts how to confess the priest, and when there is a violation of the mystery, it is very close to the discretion of confession. Sadly, when they begin to mock each other, tell secrets, derogate. It says about the viciousness of that manwho allows himself to do so, about the absence of wisdom.

- What is the second person in this situation?

- Try to enjoy the spouse and endure. And try the reason not to file him for ridicule.

So, I tell you and everyone: never strive to correct each other by anger, for the temptation of the temptation does not eliminate, but humility and sincere love. If you see that anger is in front, postpone the correction for a while. And when you see that the anger was passed, and the world came, and the reasoning is impassively working, then they say it is useful.

My beloved sister, rejoice in the Lord. Today I received full love and reverence your letter. And, waiting for hands, with a warm soul and hot love by the secret glands of the humble my heart prayed to the Lord: "I hear," I say, "Sweet love, Jesus, Savior, the light above all the world, from the original father of the parent, keeping and truth, my hope and Consolation, my fortress and strength, my love and enlightenment, hear and went to my sister the light of the divine your consolation, and the breaks of the dowel and the darkens of the dark and the soul of her soul, and the insight of your radiance take her heart, so that her grief and constant temptation waves decreased. She, sweet my christ, light,enlightening the womb and heart, soul and body, nerves and bones, mind and mind, and every composition of our village, hear me, who prayed for my sister, grieving and exhausted. "

This is a lot of other, my love for you is faithful signs, my lord lay. Since I do not forget, remembering you, about your many and countless from childhood flour. And because of them, I still love you more. And from all my loved ones, I give you the most love, for my firstborn lovers of your essence.

One thing I ask you to do for me, in the reward of such my love for you, - to add patience a little. And I believe to love us to Jesus that all your requests would be fulfilled with the prost. And the world will find peace and peace, and all that is good by our soul, the Lord will give you. You only ask for tears to make it knows how the Lord knows, His Holy Will, and not yours.

I have known that I sinned the Lord? Do not add more ulcers to the wound. And if you fall again again, do not lose, do not despair in yourself. For how not to forgive us the human-loving Lord, who said Peter to forgive the perpetrator seventy times seven a day?

Let my husband do the way he wants. Tell me that you gave it to alms, and what was supposed to give another, do not let there. Do not do new blessing to another, this is enough. Leave your own will to find the world of soulful. For the will of man became a copper wall that prevents him

enlightenment from God and the world.

Look at the example of Sweet Jesus, who became obedient with the most implicit his father to the death of the godfather. I betrayed the body of a bichery, cheek - excuses and his face did not turn from the debris. See, my sister, which love showed us the landscaling Lord! So, let them leave and we own our will, but leave and defended us. And then with daring, we say: "And leave usour debts, I, and we leave our debtor. "

For all of us are people, from the dust born, and all sin. Clay We are, and we have no knowledge. Clay clay steals. Clay clay insults. Clay on clay slander. Clay over clay crashes. Clay clay enriches. Clay over clay commands. Clay clay beats. Clay clay imprisoned. And in general, the clay before clay imagines himself wiser, stronger, richer, noble, honest, enriched by the madness and ignorance of one's own nature: where and where it turned out, How was born, what is his destination, where it ends, that after that.

So, all this was absorbed by the oblivion and ignorance and there was a chaos of ingenuity, therefore, not repentable, grievous here in another life. And therefore, the one who sees better and who is a little more enlightened, must forgive and compare the unanimous and one-stense neighbor her brother.

Oh, my child! Man never happens completely bad. He has both good and bad. So, remembering him good, you wish him good, empathy, hurts your soul and ask God for him. And in the bad it is not for him, but the enemy is our devil. From the book of the elder Joseph Afonovsky "Statement of Monastic Experience", Trinity-Sergiyev Lavra, 1998.

- Is it possible to understand "complete freedom" in marriage as the possibility of spouses to have separate contributions from each other, their companies? How do you generally treat your husband or wives friends who have survived since the time of bachelor's life and did not become friends of the family?

- In family life does not mean that the spouses should look at each other, they should look together in one direction. The essence of family life in this. Common interests, general grace - that's what unites. Therefore, you need to learn for love, for the sake of a family to sacrifice something. If you can not refuse to give up the sake of the spouse, for the sake of children, it is very disturbing. When a person does not want to change anything in his life and the freedom is full gives himself and others - this is not a way to strengthen the family. These are games in it.

The sacrifice does not mean that a person has no freedom in the family. Observation just ensures the preservation of freedom.

- When the wife seems to not love her husband that he is not attentive to her, how to make the spouse be more attentive?

- Love is a sacrifice towards the family. It is possible for words about love not to pronounce, but to live in such a way that everyone obviously, as spouses love, take care of each other. And when they require verbal confirmations - this is already the game begins, the element is envy that we do not like people. But we actually do everything differently.

Of course, I want attention. My wife is nice when the flowers bring, but the husband is nice when the table covers. You need to please each other with trifles. But we will drag it. We already outlined already, getting the bread pressing, and we do not think that the family makes it a happy not what you dressed, they had everyone from the legs to the head ... The family makes these little things. Not everyone knows how little holidays to arrange for each other. Here you have to accept, understanding that "I have such a thing" or "I have it." Other spouses are attentive, but we have other advantages. Always in each other you need to see dignity. And all the flaws are enough.

Home war is for sins.

From where the source of sin, from there and Beach punishment. David introduced his someone else's Agnic to the house, killing her shepherd, and the lamb of his own house began to tear his shepherd; He made war in a stranger, and from his own house risen against him. Against David rebelled his son for the killing of Uriya and the adoption of his wife.

And now many lead the war in their homes: one meets the war from his wife, the other is deposited by the Son, other tolerates the trouble from his brother, other from the servant - and everyone will suffer, annoys, fights, causes war and amazed by the war; But no one thinks, arguing himself in himself, that if he had not sown sins, they would not have increased in the house of his thorns and wolf, if it were not for the sparks of sinful, then his house would not have ignited. And that the disaster is the essence of the fruits of sins and that the performers of punishment to the sinner of God appoints his home, this is evidenced by the Divine Scripture, which is not significant. With you leads war wife, when entering yours, meets you, like a wild beast, sulfses your tongue, as a sword? Regrettably that the assistant was made by the opponent; But explore yourself, if you didn't conceal anything against any woman in my youth, and here the insult of the woman is marked with a woman, and your own wound your own wife your own wife. Although the acting does not know this, but the doctor knows - God. And that the evil wife is Beach for sin, this is evidenced by the divine Scripture; It says that an evil wife is given to a sinful husband (Sir. 26, 3, 9). And that the attacks from children are also punishment for sins, the witness of David, who is persecuted by his Son by his Avissal for a lawless connection. And that the brothers will be erected against the brothers as well as sins, the book of judges is evidenced. When the brothers attack you, then not so much a note on them, how much look at yourself and carefully examine, for which sins the brothers became your enemies.

But what am I talking about domestic disasters, if the very body of our, which is only closer and kindly to us, sometimes hesitate against us when we sin, letting us with hot chips and other diseases and suffering, - if a slave body punishes his own soul when she It sins, not because it wants it, but because it is so commanded to him. About ithe shows Christ, who told the healed relaxed: "He-healthy ESI: it's not sinless, but not so much that will be" (in. 5, 14). So, learning, the brethren, that the wars from home, relatives and slaves, and the diseases of corporal becomes more part of the sins, we will destroy the source of evils - sin.

"Fort in the holy Father of our John, Archbishop Konstantin Grada, Zlataustago selected creations. Meeting of teachings in two volumes," Trinity-Sergiev Lavra, 1993.

- What if the husband is cruel?

- In one of the Orthodox books, I read this story that my husband often came home drunk and beat his wife. Bil-beat ... And the wife all settled. He eventually beat her so that she was died. And when she was brought to the cemetery, buried in the grave, he, standing in front of the cross, realized that she had done. I cried and did not go from this grave for several years. Then completely changed his life. It turns out that his wife saved him with his humility. With his humility, she got him out of the depths of sinful and the martyr's crown itself received. This, of course, is a very high feat.

It should be understood that still the fire should be extinguished not by gasoline and not kerosene. Cannot annoy. And it turns out that the husband is flared, and the wife even more oil into the fire. It is necessary to make themselves torture, commemorated, because evil has one feature: it requires feeding. The man when annoying, wishes and others withdraw from himself, infecting his malice. If a hooligan strikes a man, he is waiting for him to give him. And it starts to fight with a complete basis. If a faded word said - waits for the same in response. And if it does not get, he does not know what to do. You need to learn this fire to extinguish. And quenching humility, patience. Then, when everything calms down, one can say, but not in irritation. And pray for softening evil hearts before "seven-weeks" The icon of the Mother of God, Saints, who are patrons of family life; If the husband suffers from a breakdown of drunkenness - the martyr of Vonifatia, the Mother of God before her icon is an inpalable bowl.

And, of course, you need to be reasonable when you are married. The man does not become an alcoholic with anything with anything, does not become cruel. If you see such manifestations and still go under the crown, I must understand which cross on yourself take. And if you take, then the terpi, carry, put up. You made your choice.

- How to bring an unbeliever spouse to church, how to donate the seeds of faith in his heart? And what to do if he is against the wife to pray, went to the temple, followed by the post?

- When, in the process of family life, one of the spouses becomes a believer, often he changes his life too sharply and begins to displays everyone in the house, forgetting that he was about this life for many years. Therefore, you need to give some time for some time so that they go through this path. We should not force, teach, we must live this clean life yourself so that the loved ones are convinced: with faith I become better - kinder, patient, hardworking. It is impossible to believe and love. And seeing our life, and close wishes to imitate us. This is the only way to add family to faith. And, of course, you need to pray that the Lord led our loved ones to faith. All with love must be, with respect, with compliance with the freedom of everyone in the family.

- What if one of the spouses is wrong and does not intend to admit this, but insists to be as he wants?

- Wise inferior. You can give up for a while to repay the conflict. As they say, the morning of the evening is wiser. The evil is scattered from time to time, and good tolerates, because it is based on eternity.

- Often they are afraid that another federation will take for weakness.

- It is necessary to yield noble. When an adult is inferior to a child - this is not perceived as weakness. It is necessary to understand that it is possible to give up not by weakness, but by wisdom.

- How to get along with the annoying shortcomings of the spouse?

- You need to get along with you, fight with your shortcomings. Since someone's flaws annoy me, it means to treat me. Irritability, unbeatable is my sin. I have to repent of this, church sacraments to help call. If you carefully pass on your inner state, then the same shortcomings that are so annoyed in others will find in themselves.

- You can generalize to say, what are all problems in the family?

- Due to the lack of humility, all problems. We all do not want to humble: husbands - before God, wives - in front of husbands, children - Parents. As soon as everyone gets into their place, all problems in the family will begin to disappear.

It also affects the desire to compare their family life with the life of other families when envy arises. On the one hand, we understand that God gave us individuality, the uniqueness that we are not like each other and our families are not like, but for some reason we want to live like everyone else. And to live, like everything, is impossible, because we are all different. God gave someone more well-being, someone less, and need to humble with these circumstances, learn to rejoice thatthere is. If a person thanks and rejoices that he has, he is always rich. I saw people who have enormous material wealth, with psychology beggars. They cry all the time, they are missing all the time. And there are such that they can give the latter, as a gospel widow, putting two lepts, and at the same time they live. For everything to thank - this is the way to wealth, because wealth is the ability to agree with the circumstances of your life and the ability to live by means. We sometimes envy and do not even suspect that as soon as the family becomes a prosperous, it is most often disintegrating. They lived in poverty - in the world, in love, suddenly everything has changed, the husband is already shy to his wife, changes it, changes the family. Few people who can adequately undergo a test of power, money.

Therefore, the Lord who can, gives. And when people are trying to take the desired, it often turns them into harm.

When I was sick, it was upset for children that they do not help me. I come to your father and ask: how to be?

When you get tired, then turning and say: "I do it for the sake of Christ," and Christ will help you.

So I began to do. My insults disappeared, and the fatigue did not become. As soon as I feel that I am annoying, I askfather's card:

Father, help, I annoy again. I come to him, hehe speaks:

Here you write everything to me: "I annoy, help" (and I did not write). "In her father's hand, the father's icon of the Mother of God" unalmable ", he gives it to me and says:" She helps not only from the fire at home, but also from the fire of the soul. Pray to her. "

I started praying God's Mother Before this icon. I got easy, I stopped annoying.

We quarreled with my daughter. And at that time, the father had one of our children. Sending her home, he passed the spirits of "Rose" for us andhe speaks:

There is N. from the city of the flash. Wow what! - And the hands showed how. "Let them cherish these spirits, but say that she no longer do."

After the second outbreak, the father sends us rose oil. I seriously drew attention to my quick temper and began to hold back, even an angry look showed my daughters, remembering the Batyushkina words: "Let's humble in front of the children, because you are dominant of them."

My father told me that I read the Akathist of the Mother of God, and what - did not say. I began to read the Akhatirskaya Mother's Akathist of the Mother of God, the icon of which received from him as the firstblessing.

And my daughter began to change. After a while she admitted to me:

If you, Mom, did rudely with me, you would lose me forever.

Seeing how they suffer from sin of irritability, anger, his father said: "Some have such anger, such an irritability, like a wave of a wave, rise, noisy. But if we score, it is not so scary, if only we did not do that, It was not angry themselves. Imagine how hard it is an angry person, because he has blood pressure in the shower. He needs to be regretted, pray for him. "

We lived with her husband together, but there were no peace and silence in the house. I did not give up my husband, and he, in turn, argued his right thing, and so long continued.

Finally, I'm tired of all, and I decided to behave differently. My husband will tell me an offensive word, I feel that I start to get angry, - I take a psalter and start reading. My husband is a little post, then silent. And so little, we got silence in our house and calm.

I came to the temple, my father passes by, stopped near me and says: "That's why so!".

Father Savva advised: "If you have a dislike for anyone, try to reverse, defeat yourself. Pray like this:" Save, Lord, your slave (name), and the holy prayers pray for me, sinful, and umiri my heart. "Force yourself Prove the notable man's signs, try to help him. And the Lord, seeing your good intention, will break out of the heart of dislike and fill it with holy love. In vain prayers and feats of a person, if he feeds in the heart of anger in his neighbor. The Lord does not let go of such sins on confession. " And also said: "When you feel that the anger was seized by you, tell me:" Lord, hindle ", - and then five times, breathe:" Lord ", - Exhale:" Homes ". And the anger will pass, the world and silence will come .

From the book "The life-way of the elder Shiigumen Savva. With love about the Lord, Your D.S.," M., 1998.

- If a family relationships For a long time, it was incorrectly built, but someone from the spouses or both acquisites saw that everything in the family put from the head on the head, how to change the usual, the existing way of life? Where to begin?

- It is necessary to pray. And the Lord orders. When you start to humble in front of the commercial will of God, who sometimes makes the tests in order to save the soul of a person - this is the beginning of salvation.

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One old man said: "There are many good and pious priests, but one of the thousands can correctly lead a spiritual life of a person."

The author of the Soviets and Instructions collected here, Father Valentin (Mordasov). All his free time from worship is dedicated to the flock. As an inexhaustible source, the suffering, seeking spiritual experience or just life council, people stretched to it.

1. Is our salvation depends on external circumstances?

Our salvation does not depend on anything external: it is not important - noble or not known who is rich or poor, but - virtue whether it believes whether it cares about spiritual prosperity and loves God (St. Clement Alexandria).

2. How to live to escape?

Everything is a piece of piety and love of Christian: reading the sacred books, good thoughts, conversations are useful, obedience holy, thanksgiving in temptations and sorrow, the forgiveness of the offense - we are sealing prayers and fragrant before God. Still, it is necessary to force yourself, testing in everything and the efforts of the lotion to block, then the drunkening and piety will turn into a habit (old man of John Trinity).

3. What are the biggest gifts of God?

Repentance and communion are the essence of all the gifts of God. Partly include the Sacred Books (pre. Warsonofius the Great).

4. What is the spiritual person who is allowed?

The devotee virtue is needed in every way to remove those who are in mind and the heart of the chewing thoughts. Satan is very ingenious on atrocities: when people known to piety, he cannot distract from the precious life and behavior and to incline that he is pleased, he is trying to hit them with another way. He praises them as people who have achieved perfection, then glorifies them as saints, pleases them as already become the friends of God and who have reached the edge of every virtue. And thus thus breeding the passion of pride in them, excites them in an enemy against God and, finally, pulls them down with the root, like a certain plant. Therefore, as I said, it is necessary to remove thoughts that chew us in mind and heart (Svet. Kirill Alexandria).

5. What is the most important thing for a Christian?

The most important thing is to learn the true faith (SVT. Amvrosiy Mediolsky).

6. How to get righteous thinking?

The beginning of the righteous image of thoughts is the hearing and reading of the Word of God and [Creations] of the Holy Fathers (prep. Ephraim Sirin).

7. What are we owned to know?

The will of God and what things are the essence of virtue, and what kind of sins, we must know everything. And who does not do this, he sins before God. And it turns out that who keeps himself in darkness and illiteracy, sin twice: and by the fact that he does not know the will of God, and by the fact that it does not use funds to know it and purposely "keeps himself in the dark (SVT. Feofan Naviznap).

8. How to strengthen yourself in the church?

Leadership of the spiritual father, constant with him a connection; Frequently resorted to the sacraments, careful cooking, visiting worship, homely prayer, daily reading of the Gospel, reading the books of religious content, compliance with the holidays and posts of the church year, friendship and communicating with people believers and church.

9. Is God always sends people to me?

No, sometimes God is not, and the devil sends them to us.

10. How to learn spiritual life?

Living secluded, the test of Divine Scriptures, according to the commandments of the Lord, and their interpretation, also the apostolic legends, the lives and the teachings of the Holy Fathers and to me; And that according to my understanding to the deposit of God and the benefits of spiritual, then I rewrite yourself and learn: this is my life and breathing. I advise you to do the same. I apply this advice to the good of the soul, offering that I consider it useful for yourself (prep. Neil Sorovsky).

To read the scriptures useful, it is necessary: \u200b\u200bfirst, before reading to urge the grace of the Holy Spirit to help yourself; Secondly, to read slowly, repeating several times that it is not clear to you; Thirdly, do not take care of reading a lot; Fourth, beware of the reading of the associated.

12. Is it possible to learn spiritual life without learning in a spiritual school?

Although the devotee Jeronim did not study in spiritual schools, but he himself formed himself with spiritual reading and conversations with spiritual elders and experienced religious people.

13. What religions are false?

All existing religions in the world, besides the true unified Orthodox, are false and do not save a person. False religion is daring over people. After death, it will open immediately, as firmly, on what someone founded his hope ... What a terrifying and tearing state will be the state of who will see then that he was deceived (Svet. Feofan Navitnik).

14. Why is it important to surround yourself by writing in the house and where are you going?

Because every subject in the world and any impression of the subject causes those or other thoughts, feelings and desires, that or other activities, consonants with these impressions. That is why it is necessary to surround yourself so that everyone has found you. Even if something does not produce thin thoughts and feelings, it distracts from the main thing - the salvation of the soul and the desire for God ... For example, earlier the Christian room I won everything. The walls were nailed sheets of paper of various magnitude with prayers and sayings from the Holy Scriptures; Many icons, a picture of a terrible court, photographs of the elders, confessors, simpics, devotees, monasteries and temples.

15. How to follow in spiritual life in our time?

For recent times, the later holy fathers are already more offered to the leadership of Sacred Scripture and the Scriptures of the deception, without rejecting and a very cautious advice with modern fathers and brethings, with careful content in thoughts and feelings of humility and repentance. This is a doing giving God to our time; And we are obliged to enjoy the gift of God, given to salvation given to us (SVT. Ignatius Bryanchaninov).

16. In which case external works are unpassed?

There is no benefit from all external work, if they do not be able to achieve inner kindness through them.

Do not neglect the psalms, because they drive away from the soul of the deserted spirits and instill in Her Holy Spirit.

18. What should the life of a Christian be managed?

The life of a Christian should be managed by conscience and mind, that is, reasoning with the advice of experienced. The devil is doing there, where people believe their mind, their reasoning and the confessor do not ask the Council.

19. How should the days of saying?

While retreats should deviate from the worldly fuss, in order to think about his sins, shy before God and prepare a physical confession that cleans us from sins. The days of the years should devote to sampling, visiting the temple of God, reading the Word of God and on the affairs of mercy: visiting patients, sorrowful and poor to help them.

20. What does God require a person?

From the whole Scripture I see that the requirement of God from a person focuses in the following: so that he aroused before the neighbor in everything, so that the sinful wishes complied with his desires, so that he was tightened to the god about pardon and so that he submitted him a helping hand (prep. Simeon New Theologian).

21. What does it mean to "remove from the world"?

Remove from the world - it means to leave the morals, customs, rules, habits, requirements, absolutely opposite to the Spirit of Christ.

22. How to learn addiction to things?

It happens in a person a sinful addiction to things, for example: he admires her, angry on others, arises a dispute, and when she is deprived of her, grieves her.

23. For what reason, sometimes there are great thoughts against God, the Mother of God, the Holy Icons, the Holy Tain?

We will stop judge and condemn the neighbor - and we will not be afraid of moal thoughts. No one should think that he is guilty of great thoughts if he does not want them and does not agree with them, and should attribute them to demon. Try not to pay any attention to them (prep. John the Distrowner).

24. What are the affairs of God?

There are five cases, with the help of which God's favor is saved. The first is pure prayer, the second - reading the psaltiri, the third - reading of divine Scriptures, the fourth - the memory with a crushing about their sins, about death and the terrible court, the fifth - needlework (monk Evagry).

25. What is the benefit of Jesus Prayer?

Prayer "Lord Jesus Christ, the Son of God, hindle me", permanently performed in the heart, dries a fornicker, tightened the rage, drivens anger, the peel, removes the audacity, destroys the despondency, distinguishes the tape, enlightens the mind, gives rise to lunia, brings tears.

26. For what reason should leaving the place of residence?

He said the elders: the ancient fathers did not move soon from the place of residence; If you moved, then in the following three reasons: firstly, if someone was angry with them in vain, and they could not reconcile him to themselves with all use of reconciliation; secondly, if many of them glorified; Thirdly, if it happened to someone's misfortune to fall into the forn. On these three reasons, they left their place of residence.

Read priests need more parents. "Do you know," asks Saint John Zlatoust, - Who is the priest? ". And replies: "Angel of the Lord." And therefore and honor the shepherds, he says, must be more than parents, because they are the ministers of Christ on earth, and who worshi them, he honors Christ.

28. What sins against the Holy Spirit?

First, excessive hope for the mercy of God; secondly, despair in their salvation; Third, the explicit opposition to the approved truth and the rejection of the Orthodox faith; Fourth, envy against those spiritual benefits that neighbor get from God; Fifth, staying in sins and oblique in malice; Sixth, the lack of repentance to the end of this life.

29. Who should not have friendship?

Not harder friendship and do not have a union with the enemies of the Christ Church, with heretics, with splitters, with those that are not observed saints. Must run from those people who are not afraid and do not honor God (prep. Seraphim Sarovsky).

30. What is strengthened faith?

Listen to the Word of God, sermons and teachings, read the Word of God, [Creation] of the Holy Fathers and senile books, look for and ask, talk and communicate with believers rich in faith; Pray, sciences to God about faith, live in faith, more often confess and join the Holy Taine (SVT. Feofan Relap).

31. How to treat neighbor?

Represent always in your place in your place, and yourself - at the site of the near.

32. What is important in spiritual life?

Try to have a spiritual father to have a spiritual father, to open him every sin and thoughts, use his advice and instructions. "Salvation," says the woven, "in the monster the Council, and the husband is not a dream - the enemy itself."

33. What is best known to God?

The God is not so fulfilled like malustration or bodily deprivation; And nothing is attracted to humanity him like tears.

34. How to deal with passions?

A Christian should try to make a nasty passion, such as: Passion Consides the precastness, and you make yourself be silent; Passion shall be mounted for a bounce, and you do not give yourself to join, etc.

35. What should have a saving thought?

If a person does not approve in his thoughts, that he is three years old, as he died and buried, can't fix virtues.

36. How to look at the celebration of the holidays?

The Lord speaks in the Bible: "Your holidays hates my soul", - that is, when religious holidays are celebrating in drunkenness, in a walk, in combination, etc. In general, on holidays (not spiritually celebrated), it crops it. What is collected in labor days.

37. How to avoid temptations?

1. Do not look at what people do whatever they are, but listen and listen to what the Word of God teaches.

2. Imitate the life of the Savior and His Saints.

3. Rumor and eyes turn away from the uncomplete, because through them, like doors, any evil in the heart enters.

4. More holding your homes (who has no temptation) and privacy.

38. How to teach a child fear of God?

1. To teach the child to bow on the ground before the holy cross and icons, to lob them.

2. More often to give (or bring) a child in the Temple of God.

3. To put candles in front of the images, to give commencement, serve alms, omit the coin into the circle.

4. Often communion of Holy Taine.

5. Give the prosfora and holy water before eating.

6. Talk prayers.

7. To bring under the blessing of the priest.

8. Tent to home singing and reading.

9. In the presence of a child to lead pious conversations about God and the salvation of the soul.

10. To teach him to share delicacies, even his piece of bread, with brothers, with sisters and unauthorized persons.

39. How to skillfully punish children?

It should not subjected to children neither to reproach nor punishments in passing with the use of coarse words so that such techniques do not bring children to the thought that they suffer punishment because they are in troubled spirit.

40. How do children teach Divine?

Children should teach the gospel with news, in the form of stories, Say in the hearts of their Word of God.

41. What is distilled off the Spirit of God?

Know that the Spirit of God is so not distilled off as empty conversations.

42. What is important in the writings?

What is the benefit of our work - post, reading the Holy Scriptures, etc. - if we have not learned to humble ourselves, forgive the insults, love enemies, pray for offensive?!

43. How to use time to save the soul?

Time is the precious gift of God for which the report will be required on the terrible court. Saving time consuming is when a person spends time, first, in prayer, in a conversation with God; Secondly, in reading the Word of God; Third, in visiting the temple of God; Fourth, in pious conversations; Fifth, in reflections on the life of Jesus Christ, about death, about the terrible court, about eternal torments and eternal bliss; Sixth, in the doors of good deeds and in the works. The permanent price of time is in empty conversations and classes, in games (maps, checkers, chess, lotto) and other fun, in drunkenness, in reading empty books, in debt, gulyans and sinful pleasures, especially in spectacles.

44. How to deal with sinful thoughts?

Against all sinful thoughts, the strongest weapon is prayer, especially Jesus prayer. However, there are other techniques of struggle. Against the thoughts of vanity and self-conception - to remember the decomposition of her body; against pride - bring together that one pride all good deeds eats; against malopeanov - pray for the enemy; against condemnation - to root himself in pride, remembering his sins, pray that the Lord fixed the fallen in sin and pardon; against hard thoughts - she pay attention to Hula and attach her to demon, to confess (in general) to confession, read the prayer against whom Hula; Against the fussy thoughts - to read the Holy Scriptures and reflect on God and the Divine; Against the prodigal thoughts - to remember the terrible court, the flour of eternal.

45. Which elders, spiritual fathers ask the Council?

The great saving case is to ask the Council from the elders, but at the same time, the Holy Anthony Great advised to make sure of officially and in the experience of an elder, and then he was trusted to trust him and take advice to take advice. The sign, according to which this can be recognized, is the consent of his word with the Word of God, the sainted fathers.

46. \u200b\u200bWhat does it mean to "be spiritually negligent"?

Archbishop Arseny is responsible for this: "It means lazy to pray, be inattentive to her heart, do not cry for sins, do not counteract bad thoughts and feelings."

47. What is attention, cheerfulness and sober?

Who is concluded in the heart, he is assembled, and who is assembled, he is in the heart. Consciousness in the heart should be collected by all means: both by the mind, and will, and feeling. Meeting of the mind in the heart is attention, the assembly of will is encouraging, the meeting of feelings is sobriety. Attention, wreathing, sobriety - three internal deeds, which is performed by way and acts inside. Who has them, and moreover, everything is inside [Himself] (SVT. FEOFAN NASTPER). The collence makes it possible to see in the heart of thought, desire, passion, feelings.

It is good to listen and read the Divine, better - a mutual interview, and even better - the word is more experienced. Fruit - the Word of God, and behind him - the father's Scriptures and lives of the saints. The lives of saints is better for beginners; Scriptures otic - for medium; Word of God - for perfect. Before reading to abolish the soul from everything; Contact god prayer. Readable to follow attention and fold in the heart. What did not come to the heart, on that stand until it comes. Read should be very slow. Stop reading when the soul does not want to eat already eat - fed, it means. If you hit the soul what place, stand on it and do not read further. Best time For the Word of God - Morning; of the saints - after lunch; Holy Fathers - shortly before bedtime. There are such texts of the Holy Scriptures that shove the Spirit, act on the heart and cause lunizing and tears. Therefore, such places should be discharged and stored in case of need for the excitement of the Spirit.

49. What is higher: spend money on the temple or tolerate theft?

It is equally well to spend your funds for the decoration of churches and tolerate the loss, thanks to (for everything) of the Salvation Specialtail - God.

50. What are the savory tears?

Some tears from grief, from the resentment - these are not useful, but about what is lazy, insulting, I have no real love for God - these tears are useful, and you have to pray for them, so that the Lord gives.

51. What two defects are especially abstract?

All sorts of evil vices are also agreed, but more Lyuto and destroying self-assessment and love of disputes; Therefore, the devil coarserates to contradict the self-defense, for it knows that if they are thrown and will not be justified, then from God will be justified (Archim. Feofan Novierzersky).

52. What is best to calm the soul?

Much experienced in life, I did not find anything better for the peace and tranquility of my soul, as moderate meal, staying in one place and the diligent session of God's Word (Jeroshim. Stephen).

53. What is God called?

God is ackave of a gentle severity with people, calm down, the intercession of offended, disgusting from the bad items, confrontation of bad thoughts, coordinating himself to prayer (Archim. Feofan Novierzersky).

54. What are these "mogiles of youth"?

Seven graveders of youth: disbelief in God, drunkenness, breaking, anger, urgency of parents, a bad partnership and idleness (Bezhepto).

55. When is the prayer put in sin?

There is no greater sin, how to pray to God without fear, attention and reverence; Praying with the language, and with the mind with demons to negotiate (Svet. Feofan Rema).

56. How to strengthen the love of Christ?

All more strengthens and strengthens the love of our Christ's heart thinking about the suffering of Christ. For this, it's good every day in the morning to choose any one of the suffering of Christ, thoroughly reflecting and more often remembering him to continue the day. From this always get the gift of patience, meekness and love to Christ.

57. What do people want worldly people?

People living in the spirit of the century corrupted and unbelievers are dominant that we will instead of the will of God given to their will, and want to distract us from the kingdom of God.

58. How to deal with outsided thoughts?

During prayer and spiritual reasoning, beware of accepting any extraneous thoughts; With the prohibition of the thoughts of your own: "By the name of God, I forbid you!" - And the thought will certainly listen. Jesus Prayer I. cross sign It is convenient to drive all the power of the enemy (Archim. Feofan Novierzersky).

59. What are the obstacles in prayer?

In prayer a lot of obstacles: sleep, despondency, body reeling, praying of thoughts, impatience, relaxation, rebellion of demons.

60. It is often advised to eat more. How to treat such advice?

Do not listen to the councils of self-selling people who made themselves slaves of the womb and carnal passions. In general, the fear of evil councils is more than enemies (prep. Ephraim Sirin).

61. Explain the action of Adam's Nature.

A Christian must oppose Adamov sinful nature. Saint Ephraim Sirin says in his teaching: "Adamovo nature - I don't want to learn, but I don't want to learn; I don't want to submit, but I don't want to subjugate; I don't want to work; I don't want to defeat the Ower; I do not want to have honor, but it is clear to be I suffer, but I love to blame; I don't want to humiliate me, but I love to derogate. Wise I am to give advice, and not to fulfill them yourself; what should do something - then I say, and what should not talk and say - I do. If my brother is sin, I will be happy to present him, and if I sin himself, I do not accept the impairment. "

62. Why should I avoid communicating with worldly people?

It is not necessary to have a disregard about the fear of God, because they say nothing useful, do nothing for the Lord, they do not speak any virtue, no reverence, no purity. Speeches them - the mortal network; The Council of them - the abyss of ADOV; The community of them is a spiritual Paguba (prep. Ephraim Sirin).

63. How should people welcome?

We will not expect us to be welcomed before, and after that answer the greeting. This is a sign of the mind of arrogant and reckless. On the contrary, the first will always welcome each other and the enemy.

64. What should mostly pay attention to the amateur?

ATTENTION His least stay on external exploits (for example: post, bows, lying on a solid, etc.). Although they are needed, but they are the essence of the scenes. The building is built in the middle of them, but they are not a building.

Building in the heart. For heart deeds and pay attention to your (that is, in order not to irritate, not to be offended, do not condemn, forgive, reject thin thoughts and sinful desires, etc.).

65. What if there is no manager?

N. says the truth that now there are no real leaders. However, it should not be left with one Scripture and deceh lessons. I need a question! The old man of Paisi decided so: two or three of the unanswered will constitute the Union, and each other will ask, leading life in mutual obedience, with the fear of God and Prayer (SVT. Feofan Navitnik).

66. What is the alms?

Almighty and the help of a Christian can have not only financially, but also with their knowledge, labor, advice and others (SVT. FEOFAN NASTPER).

67. How best to ask the elders: one or many?

Never follows the same thing to ask different managers and not to ask again the same thing because the very first answer comes from the Lord, and the second - from the argument of a person in the old man ... Any questioning takes upon himself a sign of humility, and it imites Christ .

68. What is God?

The birth is in the thoughts holding any truth: the incarnation, the godfather, resurrection, omniplication and others - without any direction of thought (SVT. Feofan Rema).

69. What are the leaders to ask?

Saint Peter Damascus talks about himself: "I got a lot of harm from inexperienced advisers." Therefore, it is very good about everyone to ask, but experienced; And inexperienced - dangerous because they do not have reasoning.

70. How to represent God? In heaven, in itself or more?

In no way. Get the skill to stand in the belief that God is everywhere and, therefore, in you, and sees all your intimate; And in this conviction, keep yourself a reverently invisible God, without any of his imagines. But pray, so that God himself taught you to this (Svet. Feofan Poorp).

71. What kind of victim to God is home?

The main victim to God - the Spirit's spirit. The heart is crushing and humbly God will not humiliate.

72. What do you need to know about the conversations?

Talks require great concern: in what spirit and the direction you have to talk, at what time and what exactly, and for what purpose ... Loving to speak all this should remember, and silent already committed and executed (SVT. Dimitri Rostovsky).

73. What is piety?

Under piety it is necessary to intelligible strict Orthodoxy connected to strict life According to the commandments of God.

74. What sins are considered mortals?

Mortal sins are heresy, split, blasphemy, apostasy, witchcraft, despair, suicide, prodigal sin, drunkenness, sacrant, human-bias, robbery, theft and every brutal inadequacy. The death sin of the Orthodox, who did not hesitate with the proper repentance, subjected to the perpetual flour (SVT. Ignatius Bryanchaninov).

75. What should I do and what should not be done on Sunday?

Holy Mockery taught Christians: on Sundays do not trade, do not go to the bazaar, do not work work, and not to go berries, mushrooms, hunt, engage in fishing, but go to church and listen to the Holy Service and God's Word there.

76. How should the Holy Scripture be interpreted?

Do not dare to interpret the Gospel and other books of the Holy Scriptures. The Holy Spirit interpreted him through the Holy Fathers ... And it happens the Word of God, the word of salvation for the bold interpretors of him, will be in death, the sword of the double-edged, which they nagself themselves in the eternal death (Svet. Ignatius Bryanchaninov).

77. What is the strongest remedy against sin?

No feat is so expelled to sin, with such convenience and power, as the daily confession of the old man (SVT. Ignatius Bryanchaninov).

78. What should preserve to protect yourself from sin?

Mind - from thin, evil and empty thoughts; Growing - from worldly charms. Heart - from evil desires and perisions. Rumor - from stale and ridiculous conversations, and most - from sliced \u200b\u200bin the near. Language - from condemnation and ropot. The stomach is from the coin and from the excess wine. All myself - from the worn.

79. Should I be frank with everyone?

It is impossible to be all and in all of being completely frank, it is impossible to say anything about everything, it is necessary to keep it different, hide.

80. What are the generosity?

Genham - this is when among those who have comprehended our misfortunes do not be embarrassed, do not fall in spirit, we carry them without despondency, Ropota, with devotion to the will of God.

81. What does the passion excite?

Mirous poetry, music and singing excite only passion (Ep. Peter).

82. How to buy kindness?

If a person does not notice the vices of the neighbor, then with the help of God is born in him in him, which God (Avva Dorofey) is being worked like.

83. What is "self-smuggling" (removal inside)?

Self-serving is the main virtue necessary in order to not be entertained by the influence of the world, to block the opportunity to initiate passion - this is a renunciation of the world (St. Isaac Sirin).

84. What is important in work?

When you work, look at what spirit work is done (with a ropot or anger, discontent, celebration, with bad thoughts or with prayer and boggomet, etc.).

85. What kind of disintegration does not like the evil spirit?

The devil, seeing how, through smart doing perfect, succeeds who in the commandments of Christ, uses every effort to destroy all the books about Jesus prayer and through unsuitable people to interrupt the occupation of smart doing (SVT. Feofan Rema).

86. How to behave with your neighbors?

Welcome to your nice, answer with a bright face, to all be favorable, is available, do not let yourself be in praise yourself, do not force and others talk about you, do not accept an indecent word, how much you can hide your advantages, and accused of sins and not Wait for damage from others. Do not be heavy in reprimands, it is not soon, and not with passionate movement, do not condemn for an important thing, as if you are a strict righteous. So much attach the efforts of not being glorified from people how many others try to be glorified (Svet. Vasily Great).

87. What bliss expects of the future life Pious people?

If anyone who lies with the Word and connect to one all the happiness of people since their existence, it will find that this is not equal to the slightest part of the best life (SVT. Vasily Great).

88. How to serve the soul of another?

Not a body, but also to the soul of another): with examples, the Council is applying, the book is good, you will joke, the prerequisites (Svet. Faoofan Reasanizer).

89. What is the main thing for a Christian?

This is a concern for the salvation of others. The Christian's salvation contributes to a prayer for salvation, the creation of salvation: both in a word, and gaze, and affairs, not to seduce, instruct, enjoy, strengthen, especially the spread of Divine Scriptures (SVT. Feofan Removenik).

90. What are the unbelieving christian women with unbelievers?

The ancient teacher TERTULLYAN, calculating the ineffodies of the marriage of the Christian face with the pagan, said: "Where is the memory of God? Where is the Call of Christ? Where is the feeding of the Faith reading the Scripture? Where is the heard of the Spirit? Where is the glorification of God?"

91. What should not be in the house?

It helps a lot of helping nothing in the room such that causes foda thoughts and feelings, for then he is out of danger of double branches: inner and external (prep. Neil Sinai).

92. If you need to reduce the prayerful rule?

In the case of a great need you can reduce your rule, it is: so that for the sake of God to serve (Elder Nazari Valaam).

93. What is more important: barefoot or teaching at school, institute?

The main thing is our business is a barefoot, and the scientific relationship is an apparent quality, an accident, suitable only for time of real life. And therefore should not be that she takes all the attention and absorb all the care. There is nothing Poison and more disgust for the Spirit of Christian Life, like this scientific and exclusive concern about it (SVT. FEOFAN NASTPER).

94. Why are we not afraid of future flour?

Because we are not afraid of the eternal geen torment, which we do not reflect on him, do not deepen it in the essence of it, we do not try to achieve it difficult, although we often hear and read about eternal torment.

95. How do we steal the time?

Do not steal yourself the time given to you to save the soul. We are no time to steal the time, tribal, curiosity, idle dream, many sleep. Cat around how much we did the good, if it were not for the time for the time.

96. What is the unity of the spiritual father with his child?

Everything that happens between the old man and his spiritual children should be secret, equal to confession, otherwise the enemy will upset their spiritual unity of the Lord.

97. What is the "world"?

The word "world" means people who are hostile to the whole divine and religious; Hence, under the word "world", "Mirskaya", of course, all sinful, issued by the enemy of salvation: sins, vices, passion.

98. Service affairs - stale or not?

Service of service is not a fume - this is God's business. Just make them always for God, and not for what else. Equally, for family life, you are a debt ... I don't have a fume. Only commit such cases to consciousness that the will of God is performed. Suit - cases of passion to satisfy passion, as well as unnecessary and unwashed (SVT. FEOFAN NASTPER).

99. How is the meeting on a person?

Even a short rapprochement with another person leaves the imprint, that is, or you will benefit, or harm to the soul.

100. What brings us closer to God?

We bring us closer with God, tesnotes, illness, works, if you are reasonable to carry them. Do not poss on them and do not be afraid of them.

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The post is complicated for a modern man who lives is not in the monastic dormitory, but in the middle of the world. The surrounding post is sometimes strange anachronism, and sometimes it is simply a purction. How to avoid "pitfalls" post.

Of course, to fast in the middle of the world is harder than in the monastic monastic. Sometimes someone came to God in the family, and someone church life and her rules do not understand and does not accept, and a lean cuisine is absent. It is difficult and when the person holds most of the day at work, where it is not possible to purchase high-quality lean food. But hard - does not mean it is impossible. The experience is irrefutably testifies: when a Christian is decided to fast, then he succeeds, all obstacles are overcome.

There is another very significant aspect of the post for a person living in the middle of the world. In this world, twisted, not knowing God, in his events and matters we are very often "dissolving", "we are lost", he makes us forget who we are. And in this sense, the post is a very effective tool in order to remember that you are a believer, an Orthodox person. And at the same time it is a preaching without words, because people, seeing someone from something refuses for God's sake, is unwillingly begin to treat his faith with respect. Often it becomes the reason for them to think, and then ask about something important for yourself.

But still. Every year two inevitably get up two practical question:

- How to visit worship, if working time is not reduced during fasting?

- How to fast, if, spending a whole day at work, eat what the catering suggests?

The post for a working person is a special time, as for any other. No people no - someone works on public service, someone in private companies, someone at home. And the measure of the post has its own. So, the ancient fathers in the Egyptian deserts were abstained, probably, now it is impossible to fast. No one comes to God, tasting three Bob on the day, just as, according to the lives of Rev. Maria Egypt, he fed on the great post of Rev. Zosima. But it is impossible to alienate yourself from the body of the whole church during this period.

Generally the Charter, speaking of post, does not distinguish with a working person or not working. therefore such questions usually decide with the confessor, a priest who knows his spiritual child well and can advise something individually. A lot of people work and strictly fast: do not eat fish, no meat, nor milk. But there are those who are observed hard, this applies to suffering from stomach or other ailments. Then you need to take the blessing of the confessor to light the post.

Everyone should refrain in that measure so as not to just drag legs, but also do something. One confessor said that if a person dies from the post, then this is a sin of suicide.

If the problem of a working person is that i have nowhere to find lenten food, you can cook something at home and take with you. If there is no such possibility - it means that it is proposed at the dots of catering, choose the least soon.

Observe the post in such a way that sampling does not affect performance. General principlewhich can be read from many of the Holy Fathers: the post and any other bodily exploits should leave a place for prayer and needlework. In this case, such a needlework is work.

In former times, strictly fed, we find many examples. But then there was another ecology and other food. There is a case when a foreigner advised to come to Russia a great post when the table is the most exquisite. After all, lean food can be tasty and nutritious and useful.

And we are very different from our ancestors and health physical, and spiritual health, we have another ecology, the pace of life, overload. We are others. Therefore, it is impossible to literally adopt those traditions that were natural even not so long ago, even at the beginning of the twentieth century. There was a migration from the village to the cities, the peasantry was destroyed, in our modern language No words that can be called an agriculture. Life has changed dramatically. Therefore, now this is so acute the question of the forms of physical post: before people had a greater margin of safety. People eat differently: the milk was not from the package, but from under the cow, bread from the furnace, the water is key, the air is clean.

In general, the tradition of lightness of the post is ancient. Even in the Solovetsky monastery, where in general the very strict rules are adhered to, labor (young guys who worked at the monastery, but were not yet monks) was allowed to taste fish. Because they performed hard work, and they were given such a blessing.

They give light and pregnant, and weak from the disease. But at least to some extent, even the most intimid and extremely loaded in the writ of person a post must be observed. After all, the post is not only in gastronomic restrictions, but also in certain behavior, rejection of entertainment.

As for visiting cafes and restaurants, everything should be easy. If a person went there just eat, then there is nothing reprehensible in this. Yes, and two Orthodox friends, who have not seen for a long time, may well go into a similar institution and have a resolved charter of 1-2 wines (or, with a correction to the northern climate of 1-2 beer mugs). Yes, and if your birthday falls on the Christmas post, it is difficult to cook at home, and the means allow you to invite guests and in the restaurant. However, drunkenness (this is true, and outside the post is unacceptable), as well as the gourmet for the sake of the gourmet in the post should be excluded (this applies to and domestic pastime).

Therefore, you can allocate for yourself: Yes, I can not do with this post without sunflower oil, but I can do without excess chatter at work, without a TV, without condemnation or participation in some other unworthy events. I'll disable myself from the entertainment part of the Internet. Maybe I will give yourself a task to read some specific books ... (Corporate and New Year's Parties Read here - At the bottom of the page)

The post is important not only in gastronomy. Important and internal state. Often it happens that in the first post you allow yourself tolerance. But over time, this necessity disappears itself and you do not even notice what it is easy for you to abide by the post, and the post itself is diverting for you amazing filler and meaning.

As for visiting worst, I remember Soviet times when the work and church services was really hard to combine for the reasons that the employer (that is, the state) "drove" and watched the believers in every way to somehow suffer in their church Life. But men believe sometimes even took a vacation to attend services.

The post without worships can imperceptibly turn into a diet. You yourself turn out, try yourself. In the end, it is not at all necessary to run into the temple every day, although there are sometimes such worship (during the Great Post).

Here it all depends on what you are looking for: Are you looking for a means of visiting worship or reasons for them not to visit? Each will determine. Almost everyone can come to the temple on Sunday Divine Liturgy.

But even if you are due to any reasons, having a desire to visit the temple, you do not fall into it - now there are many literature, with the help of which you can fill the passage of worship. This is also very important: you thoughtfully, slowly, you will stand on prayer, damage yourself somewhere - and you read.

Worship is the most important means of God-edition, but it is not the only one. With a very busy schedule (if suddenly you can not even come to the temple on Sunday)) you can read the prayers of the house (or on the same work). Again, what prayers and how to read them must be advised at the confessor (priest) and ask him a blessing.

So necessary before finding out the means of blasting soberly. Let it be worship or post, and in everything they need to abide by their measure. So that we brought up abstinence by refusing to small, and the Lord might entrust us more.

It is known in advance that, for example, in the first week of the post will be read by Canon Andrei Crytsky. Therefore, Orthodox people with their bosses are trying to negotiate in advance, they offer to work on other days, or simply ask. Everyone is trying to do everything to let him go, because this canon gives amazing help and in itself is very beautiful. In general, here is also very individual. And someone may, and there is no such possibility.

In extreme cases, if at home, and at work the circumstances for prayer is difficult - the same canon of Andrei Cretan (it can be easily found in the internet) you can read on the road, sitting in the metro wagon or train. It will still be better than anything - of course, if we do not have to stand, pushed, jump off the bus from the bus, and we can concentrate in transport, immerse yourself.

And to focus on prayer, you need to constantly file yourself to attention: scattered - gathered again. Believe me, even "experienced" Christians, and priests, and "most prayer rooms" always have to change themselves to prayer. If a little relaxed, then everything: went, went.

Yes, and there is a wonderful advice of the Lord of Hilarion (Alfeyev) - there is not enough time for thoughtful prayer, fill in her empty time of the day. You gain someone's phone number and while listening to the beeps in the tube to myself "Lord, Jesus Christ, the Son of God, a lot of sinning." A long queue on the transition to the subway, people go, sharing from side to side: "Lord, ame!". Sit in anticipation of the chief in line: "Jesus Christ, the Son of God, have mercy with me!".

In general, it would be nice before starting to pray, to practice what is called "God's" Helps reading the Scriptures and Holy Fathers. Many busy people cannot afford to read, but they found such a way out: in half an hour of reading the creations of the Holy Fathers. Thanks to such reflections, prayer will be more attentive. And in general, spiritual life is somehow strengthened. And without these readings, everything is easy to confuse. Try - and your life will become much more interesting and brighter. And who has not yet read the "non-binding" - very advise! Let not be creation of saints, but still, asks for a certain way.

But still scattering, especially from fatigue, inevitably there is no such person who would not have experienced this state. It needs to be taken as a givenness, do not lose heart, do not lower his hands, not to fall into despair from the inability to perfectly tune in to the post and prayer. It should be understood that scattering is the general condition of our fallen nature, our mind, damaged by sin. You just need to constantly return, immerse your mind in the words of prayer, in memory of God.

Give God to all always try to withstand the post and, so that the Lord strengthened us, gave the strength and added the circumstances to our service to him.

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